I Am My Own Wife

At Long Wharf

By: - Mar 01, 2020

Even the simplest human being is complicated and Charlotte von Mahlsdorf, the central character in I Am My Own Wife is scarcely a simple human being. She is incredibly complex and her story is amazing.

The Long Wharf production runs through Sunday, March 1.

While this is a one-person play, don’t think you are only going to hear one voice or meet one character. You will hear multiple voices (all from Mason Alexander Park) and meet many characters. In fact you will hear from more than 40 people though some appearances are very brief.

The play, which in 2002 won not only the Pulitzer-Prize for Drama but multiple awards including the Tony award for best play, is based on reality.

In the 1990s, playwright Doug Wright was tipped off by a friend about a fascinating person living in Berlin. Over the next few years, Wright interviewed the person, learned the story and exchanged dozens of letters.

The person was Charlotte von Mahlsdorf.

Multiple things made her story extraordinary. She was born a male, but from early age assumed a female persona; her father was a Nazi official and he enlisted Charlotte into the Nazi Youth program. She killed her abusive father and served time in a juvenile detention center until WWII ended.

During her adolescence, she began collecting items from the bombed out homes and the abandoned structures. In the post war period, with the Communists in charge, she created a museum featuring household items as well as old phonographs and thousands of disks and cylinders.

After the Berlin Wall was built and as she says, ended gay life in East Berlin, she recreated a popular gay bar in the basement of the museum, which served as a gathering place for members of the LGBTQ+ community.

During the time that Wright was meeting with her and writing the play, the East German secret polices files (the Stasi) were released following the reunification of Germany. Those files revealed that in the early 1970s, she had in fact “worked” for them.

During this two hour (with intermission) play, Charlotte narrates the story. But we meet Wright and his friend who told him about Charlotte, as well as her father, mother, Nazi officers, Stasi agents, friends, and many others that played a part in her life.

The bigger question that I Am My Own Wife poses is how we survive the unthinkable? What does survival force us to consider? How can we remain ourselves?

Charlotte did. Despite the Nazis and the Communists, neither sympathetic to outliers, she remained herself; she lived her authentic life. (I am using the pronoun “she” because that is what Charlotte used.) Her Stasi files don’t reveal how she was encouraged to cooperate or what she actually revealed.

As you enter the theater, you see the terrific set by Britton Mark. It could be the outside entrance or the inside entrance to a large home with stone steps and pillars. The vines and flowers on either side are created to look like old phonograph horns in multiple colors.

Mason Alexander Park plays Charlotte as more feminine looking that she was, but that is not a determent to the play. Wright has said that while Charlotte did not look particularly feminine (she had large hands), her manner was totally feminine. Park captures that.

But Park is instantaneously able to become the other characters with voices and mannerisms to match, from the southwest Wright to her friend Alfred whom she may have informed on to the Stasi.

In making these transformation in both character and time (from before 1945 until the late 1990s), Park is aided by the lighting by Jennifer Fox and the sound by Kimberly S. O’Laughlin which features authentic sounding reproduction of the old phonograph cylinders and wax discs that Charlotte loved.

Rebecca Matrínez has directed the play and Park with a skilled hand. If there is one small complaint, it is that Martínez could have paced the play slightly more briskly.

I Am My Own Wife is an absorbing play that will introduce you to an extraordinary life.

Afterwards, I did wonder if in our current society, the fine actor Jefferson Mays (who won a Tony from his performance) would be accepted in the role; after all, he is not trans.

For tickets visit Long Wharf or call 203-787-4282.

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